Thursday, December 2, 2010

Why Do Most Married Men Don't Wear Their Rings?



Dear Ask The Black Man,

Why is that married men don’t wear their wedding rings? This occurs especially with men in high profile positions. Would you please explain?

-Delta

Ask The Black Man:


Hello Delta,

I feel you are making a really broad generalization here. So many married men wear their rings with pride. If there are some that don’t then maybe there could be understanding between he and his spouse as to why he doesn’t. There are probably some that just don’t maybe for selfish reasons. Who Knows? Even if that's the case you can’t let one bad apple spoil the bunch.

In regards to high profile married men not wearing their rings, the last time I looked the highest profile man in the United States, President Barack Obama, wears his wedding ring. Again, you can’t make a judgment on all men.

I feel in our society the “ring” has more of significance to a woman then a man. Women pick out their dream ring and put a lot of meaning in the ring they more than men do. Perhaps if there was a mutual feeling with this than it may be different. Also, some men don’t like to wear rings in general.

Lastly, my question to you is: Is it the ring that makes the marriage or is it the actual communion between the two people?


That’s my 99 Cents Worth.

ATBM

3 comments:

E said...

Its hard to give one answer to something that has so many possible reasons. I know some men who dont wear rings but who are quick to tell anyone and everyone that theyre married, and I know some men who rock a wedding ring but who also cheat on their wives. I guess the point Im making is that its not so much about the ring as it is about the relationship. And what has been decided between spouses. If you dont feel comfortable having your husband be ringless then let him know. Now.. if your husband used to wear a ring and has suddenly stopped.. well we might have a whole other question on the table.

Traveler@large said...

You always give even handed answers. I wish you posted more!

The Black Man said...

E-Great response.
Some much is made out of the ring rather than putting energy into the relationship.